People will probably forget what you said ...

Outstanding leaders appeal to the hearts of their followers - not their minds
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People will probably forget what you said and they will possibly forget what you did, but they will NEVER forget how you made them feel!

By Phil Evans

Either a good or bad word from someone will stay with you for a long while - but how they made you feel in what they said - will stay with you forever!!!

Of course there's two sides to this principle (as there is for most things in life) - both equally important!!!

One aspect is the negative, destructive one. If we drive a nail into something, or a knife into someone (whether real or virtual) - even when we remove them - the resulting damage, or scar, remains forever !!! Please stay aware of that - without focusing on it.

The other aspect of this principle - the one we really should focus on - is the power of encouragement !!!

The power of uplifting words or actions to another individual - or group of people - is almost impossible to measure - but the results will be sustainable if the words or actions are used consistently !!!

Many of us are in the practice of using positive self-talk and affirmations to keep us uplifted - or to overcome some deep adversity in our lives that has left a scar. It is a great way to achieve good things and to maintain a constant "feel good" mentality - but just one little chunk of encouragement from someone else is usually far more uplifting (by a factor of ten - at least) and the affects longer-lasting.

My suggestion to you is to give encouragement on a daily basis - and if you're not particularly good at it - then try it for just one week and see how it feels - and observe the change in the dynamics of the people around you - they will be incredible ..... once they're over the shock :) One week of successful encouragement will change your entire life - because it will become a great habit !!!

Sure - it's easy to say nothing if someone in our lives does something that involves some level of achievement (no matter how large or small) - but your life (and theirs) will become far richer and more fulfilling if you can learn to give genuine praise and encouragement !!! It may not even be achievement just yet - they may only be 'trying' to do something - but just not quite getting there (?).

Your positive help just may allow them to reach the goal that they are so desperately seeking. Give it a go - you've got absolutely nothing to lose - and so much to gain !!!

If you're striving for a particular goal yourself - let persistence, patience, and courage be your closest friends - you'll get there!!!

My sincere thanks to Phil Evans for allowing me to publish this story from his weekly People Stuff e-newsletter. To subscribe to his newsletter simply send an e-mail request to phil@peoplestuff.com.au or you can visit the website at www.peoplestuff.com.au

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